The more and more I search for better ways to set and achieve goals the more I am compelled to make sure I totally let go of the expectations of achieving that goal go. Let me put it this way, have a crystal clear vision of what you want to achieve, but free your mind from what will happen when you achieve the goal.
How often do you achieve a goal and you feel flat because the goal has been achieved and the expectations created in your mind, surrounding the goal, don’t match up. Do you hear yourself saying … “It would have been perfect if this had happened as well”, “If only I was able to have gotten this across the line as art of it.”
The mind wants perfection in everything, yet in reality everything that happens whether you achieve the goal or not, everything is already perfect. So, instead of focusing on the expectation, focus on what you are learning from the experience of just pursuing that goal right now? What messages are you learning and what is coming up for you in the process of making progress towards your vision?
Well here we are again at the end of the week and time to talk about your next 5 dreams to add to your list of 100 dreams you want to achieve in your lifetime. Now if you are new to the my BLOG or you have missed a couple of weeks here is what is going on … Every Friday I share 1 question and ask you are the reader to write 5 lifetime dreams and I am committed to doing for the next 20 weeks so that you can create a list of 100 Lifetime Dreams to Pursue.
This is the 4th Week and here are the previous week’s questions …
- 5 Adventures I Would Love to Take
- 5 Things I Would Love to Try Just Once
- 5 Things You Want to Learn
So for this week what are the 5 Family Experiences you would like to achieve …
- I would like to live in a different country with my Wife and 2 Girls
- Become a Grand Father
- Complete an African Safari with my Family
- Live to 100 and become a Great Grand Father
- Have a simple Beach Holiday with limited Electronic Devices
Please share with me your 5. Talk to you soon and keep on dreaming big.
In your life what do you do the most of? Are you adapting your life to situations or circumstances or do you adopt a new approach? It is a little like the old fable if you put a frog in cold water and then heat the water slowly to a boiling point the frog won’t jump out, they literally boil to death. They just kept on adapting to their circumstances, until it was too late.
I see this a great deal in people’s lives and in their business roles. They adapt and adapt and adapt, when really they needed to adopt a new approach all together instead. Don’t get me wrong there are times when you need to adapt and then there are times when you need to adopt. Whether that is taking a new direction, new approach, shifting your attitude, moving your opinion or taking a stance on something you where prepared to accept.
In our lives we need a combination of both!
In the Passionate People Program that we conduct all around the world, one of the elements we talk about is what type of legacy are you leaving. A legacy that is bigger than you, lives on after you and that makes a profound difference to the people who mean the world to you.
I was in a conference listening to a speaker last Monday when they asked a really great question … Are you going to be Simply Remembered Fondly or Actively Emulated?
Maybe that is the difference between what you achieve and how you go about achieving your goals and life’s purpose. Something to ponder today!
As we continue to explore how to create your list of 100 Lifetime Goals, we are now into our 3rd Week. I have had some great answers from BLOG Subscribers last week to the question … 5 Things You Want to Try Once, a couple of examples are at the end of this BLOG.
So this week is all about the 5 Adventures you would love to experience in your lifetime. Now they can be adrenalin pumping, romantic, sporting, relaxing, self discovery or holiday adventures. Here are my 5, enjoy …
- Walk the El Camino de Santiago Trail in Spain
- Attend a 3 Day Silence Retreat
- Meditate with the Buddhists in Bhutan
- Watch Australia Play Cricket in the West Indies
- Week long walk along the Great Wall of China
Now from last week, here are what some people would like to do just once …
- Bungy jump in Queenstown NZ from the longest jump in the Southern Hemisphere
- Ride and follow the entire Tour de France course
- Compete for Australia in Triathlons
- Attend an African safari
- Trek to Machu Picchu
- Present and win a case in court as an admitted lawyer
- Open up a small business
- Go skydiving over a volcano
- Win a martial arts tournament
- Launch off jumps on a waterski
- Run a marathon on each continent
- Win a masters kayak event
- Kayak with whales
- Fly first class on a long haul flight
- Travel on the Siberian Railway
- Walk the entire length of Tasmania
- Visit Antarctica
- African Wildlife Safari
- Play in the Edinburgh Military Tattoo
- Do a stint as a volunteer in a developing country
Thanks for Sharing Everyone !!!
A good friend of mine has this quote on his Refrigerator …
Consistency of practise is the mark of mastery.
What do you want to master in your life and how often do you practise it?
It is hard to master something by just thinking about it. What if you spend half the amount of time thinking about what you’re trying to improve or fix or learn, and took that time and spent on working on it – what could you achieve?
What do you need to practise this week?
When I often ask the question to audiences ‘Who is stopping you from being the best you can be?’, the answer 95% of the time is YOURSELF. Now the answer yourself is a broad answer, so what specifically is the one characteristic that is stopping you from realising your dreams, desires and destinations?
Now that is a different question that requires you to be specific, to look a bit deeper into your soul and see what it really is, for once you know the root cause then you can do something about it. However all too often people tell you a great broad answer, which sounds logical and valid only to never to have it specific enough to really address.
So dig a bit deeper. The one I see often and have been guilty of myself in the past and to be perfectly honest suffer from time to time these days is comparison. How often do you compare yourself, measure your personal worth and achievements against those around you? It is never a fair measure, unless you are competing in some sort of timed sporting event.
I heard this great quote … Your negative mind uses comparison to control you. It is so true if you want to focus on what does not count then focus on what you cannot control. However if you want to control the controllables in your life then measure progress. Measure how far you have come, what you have improved upon and any shifts you have made, with yourself, not with those around you have done.
So it is that time of the week when I ask you to list and share if you want to your 5 Lifetime Dreams. Now before I get started, a BIG thank you to everyone who share with me the 5 Things they want to learn. I got to read some amazing and inspiring dreams, which I have shared with you at the end of this post.
So this week is all about things you would love to do just once in your lifetime, those dreams you would like to try just to either experience it, say you tried it just once. So here are my 5 things I would like to try just once in my lifetime to get the ball rolling …
- Stand Up Paddle Boarding
- See the Northern Lights
- Attend the Burning Man Festival in the USA
- Win a Photography Competition
- Go Salmon Fishing in Alaska
Here are just some of the many comments from last week to inspire you …
- Learn to Scuba dive to advanced level
- Learn to take awesome landscape photos
- Learn to mountain bike properly
- Learn to cook properly
- Improve my golf and teach my wife
- Learn to be a good public speaker
- Learn to play the piano
- Learn to Rock N Roll dance
- Learn to surf
- Learn and recite 20 poems
- Speak Italian fluently – verbally, I can already do the hand gestures
- Paint huge canvases with bright acrylics – nature and abstracts
- Drive my car safely at 200 kph on a professional race track
- Play golf to an acceptable social standard
- Eliminate all criticism of self and others.
- To spearfish
- Photography (with a proper camera)
- Painting with oils
- Creative writing
- To master my mac laptop and all its functions!
I was up early this morning to present on a Webinar for SkillSoft in North America and a question was asked of me about being grateful. Now as most of you know I am a great believer in recording in a journal or on your mobile phone what you are grateful for each day.
However, what came out of this conversation was not only WHAT are you grateful for but more importantly WHO are you grateful for in your life and WHY? Who has helped you on your journey, guided you, taught you and listened to you? Now when was the last time you said THANK YOU to them?
Today, write a note, send an email, reconnect with that person or call that person and say it to them. The impact they had may have been many years ago or just last week, say THANK YOU as it will make you feel better in the process.
I was speaking at a conference on Saturday afternoon and asking people to start their list of 100 goals they would like to achieve in their lifetime. As the group were busy writing down their dreams, desires and destinations, I was asked a question by a person … What do you write down when you have achieved all of your goals and you are now retired?
Regardless of your age, you need to have a purpose and pursue those activities that you are most passionate about and live life, not just endure it. I made the comment that age is state of mind, I know people who are 40 and act very old and I also know people who are 80 and act young. We need to be careful that a state of homogenised thinking does not creep into our life.
Thinking like the masses, conditioned by others opinions of how we should be, should act or what we can achieve. We need to be careful that our thinking does not fall into the category of what everyone thinks, instead of being what you think you can achieve. What thinking is stopping you from achieving all that you can be?