I started this BLOG in May 2010 and over the past almost 4 years I have kept the same format and approach. Since the start of the year I have been focused on revamping the BLOG to be more for you, so over the next week you will see a shift in format, feel and focus.
What will stay the same is that you will receive three posts each week about what I am experiencing, thinking and seeing, however with content that is in a shorter format, some that is in a longer format and some posts that are more image, video or audio based. I know in my heart it is time to change and I trust you will love it.
As you also know Friday for the past 18 weeks has been a series of Dream 5 Big Goals Questions, in order to assist you to create your list of 100 Lifetime Goals. So this coming Friday will be a double feature … the last 2 questions. Enjoy and talk to you soon.
I get it, I have suffered from it and I know it is a hard habit to break. We get so focused on the results, that our expectations blind us to the fact that by focusing on your daily rituals, the results will take care of themselves.
What is one ritual you could do consistently for the next seven days to give you the result you want in your life, career or business?
Maybe you have to do it every day for a month or two, or maybe the whole year. However, if the goal is that important and that vital, then break it down into the smallest possible ritual and it will manifest into the result your really, really want.
It is sometimes hard to measure the result, however you measure the ritual every day with a simple did I do it? or didn’t I?
If you have followed my BLOG for sometime you will know that I love to travel, it is one of my passions and I think the world is a fascinating place to explore. There are some amazing places to see, trips to take and destinations to experience.
This week I would encourage you to dream about what wonders of the world you would like to see or experience. Everyone has heard about the 7 wonders of the world, however I thing there are so many more experiences to have than just the normal 7.
So let’s get started …
- Great Barrier Reef
- Commercial Flight in Space
- Antarctica Cruise
- Trek to Base Camp and See Mt. Everest
- Walk the Inca Trail
What are your top 5? What wonders of the world would you love to visit?
You will have not doubt heard the old saying practice makes perfect, yet what it should really be is Practice Makes Permanent. In my mind the more you practice something there are only 2 desired results … one of progress and the other of embedding.
Let’s look at it … perfection often seems so far away, that we sometimes don’t even get started because of the task ahead. The other aspect is in reality do you really need to be perfect at some of your rituals or the areas of your life that you want to become effective at or even become more masterful at?
I know that there are certain skills you need to be perfect at … Brain Surgeon for example. The last thing you want is a Brain Surgeon to say to you prior to your operation … so what we are going to do is dig around in your skull and see what we find, I will just start hacking and see where it takes us!
So to build any ritual that stands the test of time, a ritual that creates how you want to feel, that fuels your internal drive, then just start by doing it today. Then see if you can string two days together, then shoot for your own personal best and do three days. What record could your create? Four days, fourteen days, twenty-four days?
Think of it this way, if Practice Makes Permanent, then Progress Creates Motivation!
Have you got a clear picture of the goal you want to achieve or person you want to become or the experience you want to have? Your subconscious mind will only connect to your goal through your visions, the pictures you will see and the feeling you will experience when you achieve your goal.
The conscious mind will connect to your goal through the words you say, your affirmations or the affirmative language you use about the goals you want to achieve. It is what you say to yourself in the pursuit of your goals that aligns you to your goals and manifests them in your life at a great pace.
Now take a moment … What is the most important goal you want to achieve?
Now visualise what you want and what you will see when you reach your goal. Take the time to articulate the emotions and feelings you will experience as you achieve your goal and determine what you are going to be saying to yourself as you make progress towards those milestones that are important to you.
Make this simple process part of your ritual and your belief will move from maybe to made it!
There is no rule that tells us we cannot achieve a goal again. Why Not? If it gave you joy and happiness last time, why not do it again? The second time around it will be a different perspective, it will generate a different feeling and it will definitely provide a different learning experience.
So what are 5 goals you would love to achieve again in your lifetime? Here are mine …
- Marry Kristine Again … I had such a great time the first time.
- Take My Girls to Disneyland Again … There will be scarier rides now they are older.
- Have My Mum & Dad See Me Present Again … Such a buzz last time for them to see what I really do.
- Write a Best Selling Book Again … This time a book for children to show them a simple way to set goals and build their confidence.
- Have a Family White Christmas Again … I love a summer Christmas but to mix it up, a White Christmas is very special.
OK, don’t hold back share with me your 5, however more importantly share them with the people who mean the world to you!
Like you, I have often heard of people waiting until … the kids leave home, I get a new job, when I get fitter or when I retire to pursue their passion, to follow my dreams or to achieve my goals.
Why wait? Why postpone the joy that comes from achieving what matters and what is important to you? Why rob yourself of the love that comes from pursuing your passion? Why punish yourself by waiting for the right time?
We all know of someone who put if off and put it off … I will do it in retirement, only to run out of life!
You family need you to be joyfilled now! They need you to be the living example of a passionate person with a dream in your heart and goal in your head that you are doing actually doing something about.
If you truly want to be an inspiration to the people that mean the world to you, then be an inspiration! Stop waiting for the right time, for perfection, for the space in your life or for a tap on the shoulder that awakens you from the sea of sameness slumber!
Start to pursue your passion NOW!
If you are pursuing your passion, now … thank you for being the living example and the inspiration for everyone you connect with. You are lighting the pathway for others to follow.
Magic happens once you make that first decision, for it opens up of a world of possibilities. The inspiration for this BLOG comes from the trip I have just completed in New Zealand. Over the last couple of days we have been rolling out our Passionate Performance Program for one of our clients. Now there is nothing unusual about that except that at the same event were a group of people who completed the program back in October. During the different events I attended numerous people came up to me and shared what had happened in their life since the program.
Three people in particular touched my heart. Lisa shared with me that for the first time in her married life her and her husband had really talked about what was important to them and the goals they wanted to achieve in the year ahead … like pay a couple of thousand extra off their mortgage and book a family holiday to Canada. In the grand scheme nothing life altering to most people, but it was important to them.
Lisa’s comment to me was simple … “When I looked at my list of 100 Lifetime Goals there were a lot of really simple things that I could do right now and I thought why wait, why put them off and why not do them?”
She just decided!
I was chatting to Julia down near Lake Taupo and she shared with me that since the program she just decided to do Pilates, stretch every day and change her diet. Then, in her words, a funny thing happened … her attitude, energy and enthusiasm for her work, family and life shifted. Once again that was important to her. The shift was the by-product of putting into motion a goal that was close to her heart.
She just decided!
Rob caught me in the hallway as I was walking to my hotel room and was eager to share what had happened since his program. First some history – Rob was the Manager of one of the least successful Branches in New Zealand out of 220 Branches. Now, within 4 months his Branch is #4!
I was keen to find out what had happened to create such a big turn around. Rob said … “I have the same staff, I have the same customers, I have the same location. I changed!
I decided to become the living example for everyone in my life. I changed my mindset and then extraordinary things happened and my world changed! I decided to create a set of daily rituals that generated how I want to feel everyday and that impacted everyone around me!”
Rob just decided!
Now I am not taking credit for any of this success, it just goes to prove when someone makes that first small decision, a whole world of possibilities opens up for them to explore. So what is going to be your first decision?
This week’s BLOG is inspired by a situation I found myself in last week. I was at my favourite Juice Bar, waiting for my juice and a lady alongside me was $1 short on her order and the change I was just given was, you guessed it was a $1. So I just gave it to one of the girls behind the counter, no big deal, just a small random act of kindness. But it was to that person, it made their day, it brought a smile to their face and prompted a spontaneous high five. I know the lady was happy, but I was joy filled. I was the one that really got rewarded.
Now I know it is great to have goals that are focused on your desires and destinations, so today I would like you to stop and thing about the deeds you would like to do for others. I know we all get busy and a funny thing happens in my world when I get busy – I stop being grateful and generous. I am not sure if the same applies to you.
So this week it is about being generous with your time, expertise or money. It could be a one off activity or gift, it could be volunteering or it could be a random act of kindness, it is all about giving. The simple act of giving takes for that moment the focus off self and onto others. However that simple act of generosity, it tends to come back to you in ways that you could never imagine.
So here are my 5 for this week …
- Once a day, make someone’s day with an unexpected act of kindness.
- Donate a large sum of money to a worthy cause anonymously.
- Provide a scholarship to someone to pursue his or her passion.
- Pay someone’s toll or coffee or meal order without him or her knowing it.
- Create a Goal Setting Program for schools to run with their students.
I love to hear what the goals are that you would like to achieve, let me know!
If you are like me, there is always a great deal to do, projects to work on, commitments to honour and promises to deliver on. Just thinking about everything that needs to be done can be tiring, overwhelming or even frustrating. For some people faced with this dilemma sometimes they retreat, surrender, become angry, avoid or over plan by reorganising the To Do List!
So the one question I would encourage you to ask yourself is What is Your #1 Priority, Right Now? What priority do you need to focus on in your life right now so that you can become the best you, you can be for yourself and for those who mean the world to you?
Is it …
- Your family
- Reconnecting with a partner
- Your health
- Your finances
- Your career
- Your business
- Giving back to yourself
- Pursuing those things that fill you with joy
- Your skills, knowledge and expertise
How many areas are you doing just OK in and how many are you excelling in?
Over the Christmas Break, I worked out for me it was my health and fitness. I was OK in it, exercised when I could, ate healthy most of the time and had great people available to work with me in this area if I needed. However, I just knew it was one of the areas holding me back from being the best I could be for my family, for the audiences I stood in front of each week and for myself, so I just decided to make it a real #1 Priority.
What does that mean? I decided to exercise every day for a week and a week turned into 2 weeks and then into 3 weeks and now it has been every day since the 1st January. I stopped eating or drinking anything with sugar, dairy, gluten and alcohol until I get to my goal weight. I am not saying you should do what I am doing, the magic happens when you make it a priority and then you create a daily ritual that leads you step by step towards your vision.
What is your priority and what do you need to do today to demonstrate to the world and yourself that it is a priority through your actions not words?